I start with my personal information because it’s me-as-human you would be working with, not my credentials. I describe those later, or you can jump to them here.
I’m British by birth but I actually started counseling in the United States of America.
I had gone to Boston, Massachusetts, to help start up a software company.
This action brought to a head a crisis that ended my marriage. So I’d only been in Boston about six weeks when I decided I needed some help to learn about relationships.
My work as a relationship counselor began on the receiving end.
I am immensely grateful that my introduction to counseling was as a client very close to despair.
I had no thought of adopting a new career.
I just wanted to end the pain and confusion that dominated me. And I didn’t know how to do it on my own.
I experienced counseling as such a powerful and enabling force that even though I am trained as a psychotherapist myself I have made use of it many times since.
I use it to change outcomes by stimulating creative thinking. It accelerates and eases any difficult decision-making process by lifting the barrier of emotionality.
Counseling provides a safe place to reveal and explore passions and for partners to negotiate mutually beneficial ways forward.
I trained as a relationship counselor in Cambridge, Massachusetts, USA. This was a substantial and specific part of a long training (14 years) to become a psychotherapist, couples counselor, group psychotherapist, coach and clinical supervisor.
The training was heavily focused on experiential learning so I spent hundreds of hours both in therapy and in couples counseling. I know how it feels to be in the client’s seat.
- I was one of the first to become a Registered [i.e. Licensed] Psychotherapist in the United Kingdom Council for Psychotherapy (UKCP) in 1992.
- I was registered as an individual, couple and group counselor by the UK Register of Counselling and Psychotherapy, now merged with the BACP.
- I qualified as a life coach with the Institute for Life Coach Training (ILCT) in 2004 and have developed my own form of depth life coaching.
- I am an accredited Member of the European Association for Counselling.
I maintain memberships of several professional bodies so as to stay up to date. These include:
- The International Association for Marriage and Family Counseling (IAMFC)
- The American Counseling Association (ACA)
- The European Mentoring and Coaching Council (EMCC)
- The American Psychological Association (APA)
I have always favoured a practical approach to counseling and therapy. This reflects the pragmatism inherent in my North American introduction to the profession,
I do not espouse a single theory in my work and those familiar with the therapy world will find influences from family systems, psychodynamic, gestalt, person-centered, existential and psychoanalytic thinking. Object relations is perhaps especially useful in understanding the flow of emotions within a relationship.
Although these theories can all be useful at different times, relationship counseling takes place in the real present, not in an intellectual vacuum.
So all of this theory is subservient to your needs as the client. I do not interpret and tell you what’s going on. I work with you so you can discover for yourself what’s going on – and can then use your own thoughts and creativity to make the changes you deem necessary.
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While a summary of experience and qualifications can be useful, it gives no indication as to the quality of a practitioner nor of the level of rapport you might strike up with them.
The only way to discover these things is to meet a potential counselor and explore your thoughts and ideas on counseling before you start working with them.
I fully support this exploratory approach because it protects everyone concerned from making a false start. Accordingly I offer a no-charge, no-obligation, fifty minute interview for you to use in your evaluation process.
If you would like to take advantage of this offer, please use the form below to set up an appointment.
I hope to hear from you.